(This post was inspired by Tessa's post)
I've hit the age where my friends are starting to get getting hitched... aka getting married. And all this wedding action only sparks wedding conversations among the single and free, especially the unmarried women.
I've heard reports that girls start planning their dream wedding since age 5. (I congratulate you, Disney, for creating the fantasies for girls of my generation.) If only those fantasies worked for the guys (like the princess marrying the beast, frog, or ogre).
I admit, it gets annoying.
The talk about of how elegant their wedding will be, the dress they want to have, the ring, etc etc etc. I never hear of girls talk about the guy, the guy who is sacrificing his manhood, freedom, and money to spend the rest of this life with this ONE girl. (I will blog another post another time about the economics of weddings.)
I understand that for weddings, it is NEVER about the guy; guys are advised to stand back and let the girl run it all. I'm okay with that, but it would be nice if women of this world also talk about how they look forward to be spending the rest of their life with their man, rather than talking only about their selfish wedding desires.
To all the men who are with me, I salute you. Let's make a stand for gender-equality!!
To all the women who are with me, call me ;)
Slightly Off-topic: Amidst of writing this, I thought of an amazing idea for a business venture to capitilize on women wanting to be wedded...
"Needless to say, half the time my job does make me want to get hitched as well. From the beautiful dresses [...], to the exquisite floral arrangements, to the photography - I love it all." - Tessa at www.aMileInHerHeels.com
I've hit the age where my friends are starting to get getting hitched... aka getting married. And all this wedding action only sparks wedding conversations among the single and free, especially the unmarried women.
I've heard reports that girls start planning their dream wedding since age 5. (I congratulate you, Disney, for creating the fantasies for girls of my generation.) If only those fantasies worked for the guys (like the princess marrying the beast, frog, or ogre).
I admit, it gets annoying.
The talk about of how elegant their wedding will be, the dress they want to have, the ring, etc etc etc. I never hear of girls talk about the guy, the guy who is sacrificing his manhood, freedom, and money to spend the rest of this life with this ONE girl. (I will blog another post another time about the economics of weddings.)
I understand that for weddings, it is NEVER about the guy; guys are advised to stand back and let the girl run it all. I'm okay with that, but it would be nice if women of this world also talk about how they look forward to be spending the rest of their life with their man, rather than talking only about their selfish wedding desires.
To all the men who are with me, I salute you. Let's make a stand for gender-equality!!
To all the women who are with me, call me ;)
Slightly Off-topic: Amidst of writing this, I thought of an amazing idea for a business venture to capitilize on women wanting to be wedded...
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Hah. I applaud you, sir. I swear, some women seem like they want the marriage for the wedding. Um, hello, there is a partner involved in all this. There is lifetime companionship you are to look forward to.
ReplyDeleteI was surprised when I asked one of my female friends if they look forward to the wedding more than to being married to their boyfriend/fiance/husband. Guess what the answer was? -.-"
Exactly, Aaron!
ReplyDeleteAs men, we must fight back! We must fight back for our dignity and worth! The man ASKS the woman for her hand in marriage... it is a woman's privilege to be married. That's right, privilege!
What about the girl who is sacrificing her Womanhood, freedom, and money to be with the man for the rest of her life cooking, cleaning and taking good care of him?? Don't you think women deserve one day of pure bliss for a lifetime of sacrifice? What about having to be pregnant for 9 months and going through hours of excruciating child labor? I think that's more than a fair trade, don't you? Also, not ALL women envision an elaborate wedding day. Some of us are just happy with eloping or just going down to city hall ;)
ReplyDeleteI couldn't have said it better Susan! And it is not a privilege LOL. I think.. when you find the right girl and talk about marriage, what you want for your wedding etc.. it'll be a reflection and representation of the both of you. Not just her. A wedding is a beautiful ceremony in itself. The floral arrangements, the dress and the venue are just a bonus.
ReplyDeleteIf every woman didn't dream of what THEIR wedding would look like.. then everyone would have a cookie cutter dream wedding. Which would be so unoriginal. But I personally think that it is important that the wedding planning (Maybe except for the dress as a surprise) should include the groom's input. However, most of the time.. the guys don't even want to be part of the planning AND leaves it all up to the girl!
Yes, women do dream about their wedding. But at the same time they do dream about their future husband. Women always think of the wedding.. and then go.. "But I have to find the right guy first." That's thinking of him, no?
" it would be nice if women of this world would also talk about how they look forward to be spending the rest of their life with their man, rather than talking only about their selfish wedding desires."
Of course we'd tell our future husband that! But it's not exactly something that would come up when women talk to their girfriends. Maybe once in awhile.. but wedding planning is something that gets the women excited lol. Plus, that would be said in the vows hahaha.
Oh but I have to agree with how there are some crazy brides who go elaborate on everything and it's based too much on a faded fairytale.
ReplyDeleteohmygosh I love this post LOL!! I salute you LOL..
ReplyDeletehahaha and I love the business venture - I want to be a part of that.
Gotta share and repost this.
www.mrschong.com
I would like to defend the men by saying this. First of all when you get married, both the man and woman take turns or share the tasks of cooking & cleaning. But for the ladies that expect themselves to do all the cooking and cleaning then look at it this way the Man has to work longer hours to support two people, stress over projects, get on the good side with co-workers and the boss, try not to get fired...
ReplyDeleteYou're one of those guys that would say "woman, MAKE ME A SANDWICH!" wouldn't you? Haha, just kidding.
ReplyDeleteYou got good points but not all girls think that way. Don't know what kind of women you've been meeting!
And why are you complaining? Don't you want your girl to look beautiful? I know you don't understand why girls get so hyped up about weddings but we just long to be princesses. Not just cause of Disney... it's in our nature. Read captivating by John and Stasi Eldridge :)
Haha I only intended to write a little bit and then it got longer and longer and I still want to write but... meh.
pick the CAKE you want! hehehe
ReplyDeleteHey I've spent much more time in my life thinking of what I want and need in a man, than in a wedding.
ReplyDeleteHow many girls have made a list of important traits in their guy? And how many girls have made a list of wedding must-haves?
And the list of traits in a guy is usually brought to God and prayed upon too (or at least, that's what is encouraged). How many women pray to God about their future wedding vs their future spouse?
And I agree with Aunty Susan!! Very good points!!
At least when most ladies think about their fantasy wedding, they know it's just a fantasy. When they think about their future spouse, I think there's a lot more heart and soul poured into that one.
Everybody's different though, as your mum pointed out.
Selena.. .. "Susan" is not my mom. I THINK it's Jerry's sister. hah!
ReplyDeleteLOL@Selena and Kevin! FYI,I'm not related to anyone you know. I had the privilege of coming across your blog posting through a friend's link. ;) Thank you for the references tho, lol. Kevin, I've discussed this particular blog posting with another girlfriend of mine (who is currently engaged). We both agree that you could argue both sides (Men vs. Women) endlessly. Especially the sacrifices each side makes for marriage. Each and every one of you have made some valid points (i.e. Tessa with the cookie-cutter wedding, guys not caring about the details, Sam with his arguments about Men working hard and Selena about asking God for the perfect spouse). I, myself, am happily married. Did I stress over the details of our wedding, of course! I am a girl after all. However, I did not forget whom I'm marrying. I couldn't wait to spend the rest of my life with my husband. I feel very lucky and I am still thanking God every day for bringing him into my life. You have to understand that we talk about the details of our wedding endlessly because it's the upcoming biggest main event in our lives. We're not marrying that special guy just for the sake of having an elaborate wedding of our dream (though, I admit that I was amused by your little business plan above). I praise my husband to my families and friends all the time. Just because I may have overly-expressed my enthusiasm about our wedding and perhaps under-expressed my praises for my soon-to-be husband doesn't necessarily means that he was only a mere accessory to my so-called "dream wedding". If there are girls out there who honestly feels that way, that says a lot about their marriage, don't you agree? I have to admit, there are some over-the-top bridezillas out there. However, please don't categorize all of us under the same file just based on a few crazy rants you overheard. It's true when they say Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus. We speak very different languages, as you can already see from all the responses. I just want to clarify a few things though: It is NOT, I repeat, NOT a "privilege" to be married. As for "gender-equality", that's never going to happen (the scale is actually tipping over to your side). Are you telling me that you, as a man, are fighting for equality after everything we, women, have fought for throughout history? Do you really think you've got it that bad just because of a little wedding blues?? After all that being said and done,I could only bid you good luck in finding that girl who shares the same wedding mentality as you. Remember: ANYTHING is possible but chances are very slim. ;)
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